Setting High Expectations for Yourself

High-impact coaching leaders and elite performers have high internal benchmarks. They focus on setting high expectations and then go to work trying to exceed them.

You will find that some folks will have a harder time setting expectations for themselves than others will, and it may appear that they are not willing to commit and are ok with only doing the required work.

Be careful. Our ability of setting high expectations has a lot to do with the story we tell ourselves about our life. Past failures, limiting self-beliefs, and unrealistic expectations projected on them by others can have a lot to do with the struggle.

Having a team member struggle with this process is an opportunity for you to have a conversation and get to know them better. Even better, it is an opportunity for you to help them get to know themselves better.

Remember; “Self-awareness is THE competitive advantage.”

People who know who they are, and what they stand for, and can articulate their highest priorities are the most successful at setting high expectations and resiliently working to exceed them.


  • Because they operate from a place of conviction and not convenience.
  • They understand what their values are, and those values set the standards for how they do everything.
  • their values show up in their preparation, communication, execution, reflection, and in their ability to adapt.
  • They are fiercely independent yet willing to ask for help.
  • They operate with purpose and high positive energy.
  • They have a confidence about themselves that impacts others.
  • They understand that their numbers are a by-product of the process.
  • They hate to lose. As a matter of fact, many will hate to lose more than they enjoy winning.
  • They understand and embrace the value of achieving small wins every day as they work toward their lag and lead goals.

This was originally published as a weekly newsletter from Ed Molitor, with The Molitor Group. If you’d like to receive the weekly newsletter, follow this link to subscribe.


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