If It Is to Be, It Is Up to Me

I once heard someone in my industry go off on people for saying Wednesday is Hummmmmmp Daaaaayyyyyyyy and the week is all downhill from here.

He called them soft and mentioned that every day counts and when you view the rest of the week as going downhill then you have a tendency to coast.


Lighten up!

Which is something we need to find a way to do right now with all the insanity that is happening.

Lighten up, have some fun, and stay dialed into what you need to do and what you are capable of doing.

I am more productive, creative, and engaged when I have a little fun. Or, a lot of fun for that matter.

We are in a battle right now and we need to do things to keep our minds fresh and energy up and laughter is a tremendous help.

Breaking up the week helps us to not become so overwhelmed and to operate in what seems to be a compressed time frame. Believe it or not… that is where we excel.

Time is something I want to talk to you about for a quick second here and in a good way. Maybe this note can serve as a little nudge.

I remember when I was young that I would go everywhere with my Dad in the summer. Which meant we had a lot of time in the car driving to and from summer league games for his varsity teams.

And, I remember it like it was yesterday. We would be in his old blue Datsun with the windows down (no AC!) and listen to motivational tapes.

The thing is… the car only had an AM radio so I would be in charge of manning the old school Panasonic tape recorder.

I loved every minute of it and little did I know that George Raveling’s talk to his Washington State Basketball camp would stick with me for the rest of my life.

“If it is to be, it is up to me.” That line has stuck with me over the years and shows up in my life daily.

I promise I will go into that speech in more detail at a later date but for now, I want to tie that into something that I believe is very important.


My two biggest challenges right now are resources and time. Which does not bode well for my sleep pattern!

This pandemic has challenged the business in every way imaginable and has provided me the opportunity to build my resilience as a business owner, a father, and a husband. I am not sure that I nail it 100% of the time but I am locked in, present, and aware of my highest priorities.

Nancy has the demands of corporate America and there is not as much flexibility there for her, though her employer, Comcast Business, has been nothing short of amazing in what they have done for their employees.

In the afternoons, although we have help with the kids from the sitter, they are constantly running in and out of my office asking for something,

Now, I could sit and be bitter or I can take ownership of the situation and continue to try to get better.

In other words, I could sit and blame everything and everyone for the adversity we are all facing, or I can see time as my ally and do the best I can with the time blocks I have to myself.

Which are not many, so being in the right frame of mind to execute and get things done is critical.

Again, I remind myself throughout the day that I have the power to determine my own inner experience.

“If it is to be, it is up to me.”

Celebrate What You Have

It is physiologically impossible to simultaneously experience gratitude and stress at the same time which is why I literally write down and make a note of the opportunities that show up because of the challenges I face.

Which was the topic of this solocast which you can listen to here: Celebrate What You Have

Here is what I covered:

  • Why perspective is so important during adversity
  • How to operate from a place of gratitude during adversity
  • How gratitude helps us work through anxiety
  • How Thanksgiving Day my freshman year at Creighton forever changed the way I approached gratitude… how to feel it, how to express it, how to share it, and what impact it has on our relationships
  • Why those who come from a place of gratitude experience greater success growing through adversity
  • What does it mean to be All-In on expressing gratitude
  • How to take gratitude to the next level

Gratitude is not only a Thanksgiving Day thing, it is an every-day-thing!

Adversity will never stop showing up in our lives.

Keep working at growing through it and continue to build your resilience.

Resilience wins.

Are you doing the best you can with what you have… right now?​

Have a great day!


This was originally published as a weekly newsletter from Ed Molitor, with The Molitor Group. If you’d like to receive the weekly newsletter, follow this link to subscribe.


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